Daddy Trev caught the flu
Not the pig one but the common one... so we decided to be social responsible and self quarantine ourselves.. meaning, he goes to NG residence me to the TAY's... DD T won't get to see her until he has recovered.. remember the cough? So he goes back to get his mommy's love and daddy's concerns.
So it soooooo boring staying at home and its the weekend, its usually the time for me to go out and breath but now am stuck here... But since there is that rising numbers and the many clusters around, call me paranoid but I don't Victoria to be the youngest person to be infected. (the youngest being 14 mths)
DD T has been starting to do his regional tours, flying about a lot in june.. he is highly infectious as grandpa John caught the flu bug too. Eeeks.. so mean coming from the wife right?
Hey but I'm the main caregiver and her source of food aka milk and cannot afford to be ill.
Sunday, June 28, 2009
Sunday, June 21, 2009
Sex
n u wonder its suppose to be natural...
This sex thing after delivering is errmmm damn uncomfortable man.... We mummies speak openly about this issue as errmm it is an issue... guess its more tramatic for the selected few, painful for some and don't want it for majority.
I fall into the "I don't mind sex" as we had it the day before BB [V] was born, but after delivering.. it kinda of became a problem for a while.
1) You are so busy with the baby, that is the last thing on a mummies' mind
2) There is a nagging thought of wound-ing the poor organ (she)
3) Leaking milk when arouse = messy (actually hardly can get arouse but touch-ed)
4) Dry, definitely dry.. its worse when breastfeeding... something about the hormones they say
5) Needless to say, not sexy .. don't think, don't feel, don't want
But it gets better with time and of course trys...guess its mind over matter...
I spoke to mummies around and it seems that some start after 4 months, some rely on the "lub", some are best friends with the left and the right hand, some remain chaste (they say its going to be a while), some just do it for the sake of doing, one I know lost the hb to other organ (sad and F%*^*&(* bastard, I say)
Any man reading this, be patient...
This sex thing after delivering is errmmm damn uncomfortable man.... We mummies speak openly about this issue as errmm it is an issue... guess its more tramatic for the selected few, painful for some and don't want it for majority.
I fall into the "I don't mind sex" as we had it the day before BB [V] was born, but after delivering.. it kinda of became a problem for a while.
1) You are so busy with the baby, that is the last thing on a mummies' mind
2) There is a nagging thought of wound-ing the poor organ (she)
3) Leaking milk when arouse = messy (actually hardly can get arouse but touch-ed)
4) Dry, definitely dry.. its worse when breastfeeding... something about the hormones they say
5) Needless to say, not sexy .. don't think, don't feel, don't want
But it gets better with time and of course trys...guess its mind over matter...
I spoke to mummies around and it seems that some start after 4 months, some rely on the "lub", some are best friends with the left and the right hand, some remain chaste (they say its going to be a while), some just do it for the sake of doing, one I know lost the hb to other organ (sad and F%*^*&(* bastard, I say)
Any man reading this, be patient...
Thursday, June 11, 2009
Being SAHM
SAHM: Stay at home mom
Its been 4 mths, time passes really fast with this little one. We wake up everyday at about 1130-1200, its usually her coos and singing that wakes me up for I can sleep more haha... I have watched her many times and pretend to be sleeping, she will always look at me to see if I'm awake, if not she will lie there playing with her fingers and continue singing. She waits for that moment when I open my eyes and will always greet me with a beautiful smile. DD T always waits for this moment during the weekends and absoutely loves it. He says it melts his heart. For me, I feel really blessed to be able to spend all my time with her despite how difficult it may be.
For some mummies they say the 1st 3 months was a breeze as their babies sleeps alot. But for our case, its totally different. We had a hard time in the intial stage as she was crying alot and didn't know what she wanted.
I read alot and tried implement all sorts of routines into her life for that was what the books says with advices from the elders. Feeding her at a schedule, sleeping at certain times, no co-sleeping, no association of any sorts to falling asleep, strapping her in her infant carseat etc.. But you know, they all didn't work for her, she will be screaming alot, crying non-stop. It all changed that one day when we went to get her 6 in 1 jab, after getting her jab, she screamed so loud and cried till she had no more voice, (mind you, she was about 2 1/2 mths then) the PD looked up and asked us if she does this often. We were like ermm 2-3 times but she cries alot. PD told us that she is a "BREATH-HOLDER" baby, meaning a baby capable of crying till she turns blue cause of breath holding. She advised not to allow BB [V] to continue with this behaviour as she once had a baby that had fits because of this.
I remembered we were so lost, from that day onwards we never impose any form of the "routines" and we followed her cues instead. We let her wake up whenever, feed her when she cries for milk, stopped putting her into her crib(she hates it) she co-sleeps with us, sleeps on me if she wants to, I did whatever she wanted. Lo and behold! that was the time that she stopped wanting the pacifier and has since stopped screaming.
It made me realized one thing, routines are created so that the adults have a easier time. Human beings have been moulded to follow the clock so that they can plan their time better. But does babies actually know what is time all about? Since that day, I have sinced stopped looking at the clock and followed my heart as I feel that my baby thrives best at this environment. The grandparents noted the difference in BB [V] too, for she is always smiling and hardly cries now. I guess everthing will fall into place one day without forcing.
So back to what we do at home, after I wake up I will let her watch OKTO while I shower and prepare her bath. After her bath, we will play for a while on her mat, do a bit of flipping, turning, "crawling". The minute she starts grumbling, I will move her to her rocker chair where she will watch either of her "Baby Einstein", "Baby Signs", "Hi-5". During this time I will run to do my things or if I have nothing to do I will watch with her and surf the internet at the same time. Feed her or nap or change diaper after that, in no particular order. We usually do a 2-3 hr nap at 5pm and wake up just in time for DD T to come back from work, have dinner, play as a family. By 11pm both of them will be in their "lala" land, while I finally get my "me" time.
Like what you read, I don't do housework. Maybe do laundry one week once, only her clothes or home clothes. Any clothes that requires ironing is packed in a bag and brought to Aunty Nita. We take turns to drymop the floor, whoever is free to do it and major cleaning is done by a part time helper. No cooking as we have dinner delivery. So you can see the time is totally devoted to BB[V], DD T has zero expectations from me as he knows the demands of our girl, for she doesn't like to be left alone. It is okay to be doing something else as long I am next to her.
I really admire my downstairs neighbour, she washes loads, like 8 bamboo sticks with extension of 20 hangers hung on her windows, (us is max 4 sticks)... Cooks power packed dinner, mainly curries for the smells are heavens! looks after 2 young boys and is preggie with her 3rd! WTF right... I pity her lots, poor thing. I mean I admire her alot but what ass life is that? No helper you know, pregnant you know, 2 boys you know, her young boy is less than 1 yr old you know! Guess its normal for her religon. Bless her.
I guess the time will come when I return to the workforce but we have decided it will not be so soon. We got to sacrifice our expensive shopping and indulge in only what is necessary. But I am enjoying this, as I have been working full time since 18 years old. What better time to stop and smell the flowers for its only a few years out of many till 65 years old right? Maybe in years to come, retirement age will be 75? Then taking a year or so off isn't that bad. What better time to do so by watching the princess blossom.
Its been 4 mths, time passes really fast with this little one. We wake up everyday at about 1130-1200, its usually her coos and singing that wakes me up for I can sleep more haha... I have watched her many times and pretend to be sleeping, she will always look at me to see if I'm awake, if not she will lie there playing with her fingers and continue singing. She waits for that moment when I open my eyes and will always greet me with a beautiful smile. DD T always waits for this moment during the weekends and absoutely loves it. He says it melts his heart. For me, I feel really blessed to be able to spend all my time with her despite how difficult it may be.
For some mummies they say the 1st 3 months was a breeze as their babies sleeps alot. But for our case, its totally different. We had a hard time in the intial stage as she was crying alot and didn't know what she wanted.
I read alot and tried implement all sorts of routines into her life for that was what the books says with advices from the elders. Feeding her at a schedule, sleeping at certain times, no co-sleeping, no association of any sorts to falling asleep, strapping her in her infant carseat etc.. But you know, they all didn't work for her, she will be screaming alot, crying non-stop. It all changed that one day when we went to get her 6 in 1 jab, after getting her jab, she screamed so loud and cried till she had no more voice, (mind you, she was about 2 1/2 mths then) the PD looked up and asked us if she does this often. We were like ermm 2-3 times but she cries alot. PD told us that she is a "BREATH-HOLDER" baby, meaning a baby capable of crying till she turns blue cause of breath holding. She advised not to allow BB [V] to continue with this behaviour as she once had a baby that had fits because of this.
I remembered we were so lost, from that day onwards we never impose any form of the "routines" and we followed her cues instead. We let her wake up whenever, feed her when she cries for milk, stopped putting her into her crib(she hates it) she co-sleeps with us, sleeps on me if she wants to, I did whatever she wanted. Lo and behold! that was the time that she stopped wanting the pacifier and has since stopped screaming.
It made me realized one thing, routines are created so that the adults have a easier time. Human beings have been moulded to follow the clock so that they can plan their time better. But does babies actually know what is time all about? Since that day, I have sinced stopped looking at the clock and followed my heart as I feel that my baby thrives best at this environment. The grandparents noted the difference in BB [V] too, for she is always smiling and hardly cries now. I guess everthing will fall into place one day without forcing.
So back to what we do at home, after I wake up I will let her watch OKTO while I shower and prepare her bath. After her bath, we will play for a while on her mat, do a bit of flipping, turning, "crawling". The minute she starts grumbling, I will move her to her rocker chair where she will watch either of her "Baby Einstein", "Baby Signs", "Hi-5". During this time I will run to do my things or if I have nothing to do I will watch with her and surf the internet at the same time. Feed her or nap or change diaper after that, in no particular order. We usually do a 2-3 hr nap at 5pm and wake up just in time for DD T to come back from work, have dinner, play as a family. By 11pm both of them will be in their "lala" land, while I finally get my "me" time.
Like what you read, I don't do housework. Maybe do laundry one week once, only her clothes or home clothes. Any clothes that requires ironing is packed in a bag and brought to Aunty Nita. We take turns to drymop the floor, whoever is free to do it and major cleaning is done by a part time helper. No cooking as we have dinner delivery. So you can see the time is totally devoted to BB[V], DD T has zero expectations from me as he knows the demands of our girl, for she doesn't like to be left alone. It is okay to be doing something else as long I am next to her.
I really admire my downstairs neighbour, she washes loads, like 8 bamboo sticks with extension of 20 hangers hung on her windows, (us is max 4 sticks)... Cooks power packed dinner, mainly curries for the smells are heavens! looks after 2 young boys and is preggie with her 3rd! WTF right... I pity her lots, poor thing. I mean I admire her alot but what ass life is that? No helper you know, pregnant you know, 2 boys you know, her young boy is less than 1 yr old you know! Guess its normal for her religon. Bless her.
I guess the time will come when I return to the workforce but we have decided it will not be so soon. We got to sacrifice our expensive shopping and indulge in only what is necessary. But I am enjoying this, as I have been working full time since 18 years old. What better time to stop and smell the flowers for its only a few years out of many till 65 years old right? Maybe in years to come, retirement age will be 75? Then taking a year or so off isn't that bad. What better time to do so by watching the princess blossom.
Monday, June 8, 2009
30 may Everton vs Chelsea
It was a big night for DD T as it was a big game for his favourite team Everton. Despite that they didn't win but we had a fun night bonding...
and who says daughters can't have fun with daddys... as we couldn't find an infant Everton kit so I dressed her in her boy boy shirt while DD T had his jersey on...
Wassup?
Oh FOOTBALL... I remember listening to this before... but what is it all about?
Mummy , care to explain?
So exciting... oh GOAL!
Goal?
More Goal?
Pui Chelsea, my Daddy's team was MORE cool...
and who says daughters can't have fun with daddys... as we couldn't find an infant Everton kit so I dressed her in her boy boy shirt while DD T had his jersey on...
Wassup?
Oh FOOTBALL... I remember listening to this before... but what is it all about?
Mummy , care to explain?
So exciting... oh GOAL!
Goal?
More Goal?
Pui Chelsea, my Daddy's team was MORE cool...
In conversation with....
WE don't know if this is common amongst babies, for she can go on and on... she was barely 4 mths in this 2 videos.. We think we have a yabba daba baby, for she is one who is going to ask many questions... WHY WHY WHY, Mummy, Daddy why is the sky so high???
I dread the day, for I don't have answers to many questions in life...
Thursday, June 4, 2009
The road less travelled
went out to collect my stoopid lappie ...
Since mummy is the child's best education, I decided to show BB [V] something different instead of the usual shopping centres. Along her education tour, I took some pictures to show her how it was in year 2009 . I guess by the time she reads this blog, it would be 10 years down. Since this blog is a gift to her, I am hoping that my electronic journal will not disappear suddenly..arrgggg I will faint... so I am considering about "dot com-ing" this blog, but gotta pay monies...
Really need to blog more but this lappie is killing me slowly but surely. Guess its not much the brand but the M vista is really not very friendly, its so SLOW! But I have decide on my new lappie!! yipee, will get it next week.. then maybe I will be more motivated.
Her history tour...
this is fun mummy...
I'm a singaporean for 30 years and have never taken this route and have this singapore photos in my collection.. I don't have a folder "Singapore" and I have alot of countries in my collection.. its amazing what motherhood does/is doing to me.
one photo for kepts, the building that will change our skyline forever..
ermm mummy..enuf? i want aircon...
Then it got REALLY hot, so we went to Marina Square for some retail therapy and waited for DD T for dinner.. He always makes it a point to come and pick us where ever we go. I was dying for a nice burger but guess this restaurant didn't fufill my expectations. It really sucks when you pay good money for crap food. Damn boring..
Yup, I'm back to my restaurant eating. *sings* "Its all coming back, coming back to me now......... "
My westernized appetite when I was preggie is diminishing slowly. But ONE thing I realized that changed my appetite forever, I think is TEA.. I was never a fan of caffeinated drinks with the exception of alcohol, no coffee or tea, errmm hardly was in my list. You can never find me in starbucks or "sarabut" store chilling cause I don't like. But ever since this pregnancy, I actually enjoying drinking tea. Damn weird, not healthy green tea, herbal tea... must be the thick, thick, sweet like hell type. Like teh tarik, bubble milk tea, hongkong milk tea. (Damn sinful) Well we will see how long this thing will last...BB [V]'s "englishness" did kinda influence my taste buds a little.
Since dinner SUCK-ED.. DD T wanted to cleanse his platelet with a nice japanese hokkaido ice-cream
daddy, i want
mummy can?
yums yums...
*drools* *pouts* why?
Since mummy is the child's best education, I decided to show BB [V] something different instead of the usual shopping centres. Along her education tour, I took some pictures to show her how it was in year 2009 . I guess by the time she reads this blog, it would be 10 years down. Since this blog is a gift to her, I am hoping that my electronic journal will not disappear suddenly..arrgggg I will faint... so I am considering about "dot com-ing" this blog, but gotta pay monies...
Really need to blog more but this lappie is killing me slowly but surely. Guess its not much the brand but the M vista is really not very friendly, its so SLOW! But I have decide on my new lappie!! yipee, will get it next week.. then maybe I will be more motivated.
Her history tour...
this is fun mummy...
I'm a singaporean for 30 years and have never taken this route and have this singapore photos in my collection.. I don't have a folder "Singapore" and I have alot of countries in my collection.. its amazing what motherhood does/is doing to me.
one photo for kepts, the building that will change our skyline forever..
ermm mummy..enuf? i want aircon...
Then it got REALLY hot, so we went to Marina Square for some retail therapy and waited for DD T for dinner.. He always makes it a point to come and pick us where ever we go. I was dying for a nice burger but guess this restaurant didn't fufill my expectations. It really sucks when you pay good money for crap food. Damn boring..
Yup, I'm back to my restaurant eating. *sings* "Its all coming back, coming back to me now......... "
My westernized appetite when I was preggie is diminishing slowly. But ONE thing I realized that changed my appetite forever, I think is TEA.. I was never a fan of caffeinated drinks with the exception of alcohol, no coffee or tea, errmm hardly was in my list. You can never find me in starbucks or "sarabut" store chilling cause I don't like. But ever since this pregnancy, I actually enjoying drinking tea. Damn weird, not healthy green tea, herbal tea... must be the thick, thick, sweet like hell type. Like teh tarik, bubble milk tea, hongkong milk tea. (Damn sinful) Well we will see how long this thing will last...BB [V]'s "englishness" did kinda influence my taste buds a little.
Since dinner SUCK-ED.. DD T wanted to cleanse his platelet with a nice japanese hokkaido ice-cream
daddy, i want
mummy can?
yums yums...
*drools* *pouts* why?