me @ 15mths

its been 15 mths...

Time to rejuvenate myself.. make myself more "piao liang" *winks*

So I did my brows today, going for another hair treatment next week or so... I'm on a 5 kg weight reduction diet.. to the pre-preggers (1kg more), pre-whatever (many kgs lots) weight. Losing 2-3 kg is like "I will put on again very fast type right" then 10kg is like "OMG eh damn unreal" so 5kg sounds real gd. I have 4 more kgs to go... day by day I will strive...

I ordered a whole set of skincare to revive my "oh so tired, deprived, mummy skin" coz that day I tried the mineral powder passed to me by my gf, waited for DD T to come home, showed him my nicely powdered face... he was like "oh its your powder huh, I was about to ask you if you cut your hair or something coz you look different."

ME was all SMILES coz the husband hardly can differentiate anything... then it was like if the power makes such a difference, then the skincare may just rocks.... I tried the samples and loved it... from now on I will be diligently looking after the skin coz I miss those days when it just glows!

Pre-molars

dun koe why...

ever time I write about something about her, she starts her pattern...

Yesterday she woke up crying at 4am.. damn "cham", everything we did was wrong... so both of us watched MTV with her until she forgot why she got so angry. I think in that 2.5 hrs I applied Bonjela like 4 times... (found this more effective than Dentinox)

so this pre molars teething thingy is not fun... her upper gums are real sore and I can feel the sharp sides cutting within this 2 weeks... today: she stopped eating her meats and drinking her milk... so I gave her loads of cold fruits (quarts) to bite to soothe the gums...

DD T put her to sleep today and came out "its going to be war tonight" so we are armed with the bullets to fight the war with her...

DD T may wake up late tomorrow again...

learning from godma

the wilsons are great cooks

She is born into a family of great cooks... the other are just pure great eaters... (ermm esp DD T)

Every single lady in the family cooks real well and each has their own talent. This weekend Godma had a burger party with her girlies, guess who kaypo-ed?

2 shots boubon, 3 shot worchestershire sauce.. etc

I got the genes , mummy

this is her "flash card" to simulate the right brain

godma doing up the patties

while she take notes of what she just saw... after her "flash card" activity

V's friend

she likes to feed her friends.. especially cookie monster coz his mouth is so big :) he gets her milk, biscuits, raisins...

one for her friend, one for her .... cute to watch, but irritating when it becomes playtime during foodtime

15 months

just an update

We started the no boobies for the night feeds... I meant no more constant latching aka human pacificer behaviour throughout the night.

Since 2 weeks ago, while we were at The Tays when DD T went for reservist and since I have help.. so why not.

Day 1: I kept myself awake while waiting for her to stir at her usual 2/3am, when she woke up I spoke to her and told her no boobies... of course it came with alot of arguments even though it was in the wee hours and she was supposed to be all sleepy. So I stayed up with her to watch TV and played her music from my Ipod.. Slowly but surely she fell back to sleep at 4-ish till 8 am, I was ready to latch for her morning brekkie.

She woke up at 10am and MM F slept till 1 pm :)

Day 2: Same thing... I waited for her to stir and this time played music for her but she ended up dancing on the bed *sweats* keke.. but after 30 mins or so she got all upset and started to cry ... but I didn't give in and ignored her. So after 10 mins of screams she slept. I allowed that as I feel that is NOT "cry it out" method as we were next to her while she was screaming and so still fulfilled my attachment parenting stand.

She stirred at 7am, I latched her, Grandma Tay took her away for a bath at 11pm while I slept.

Day 3: I went to town to get a music disc for her as in the mellow type. I can't deal with another day of dancing at 3 am... so this time round, I waited to about 2/3am and played the music for her... she stirred, opened her eyes looked for us, heard the music and slept till 9am!!!! when she woke up, it was becoz of hunger..

Day 4 till to date: sleeps like a baby from 9-9am.. though I realized if she sleeps after 11pm due unforeseen circumstances, eh.. she wakes up at 7am playing argghhh... I'm quite lucky as BB [V] will play by herself next to me though I gotta turn on the MTV while I continue to zzzz.

Okie I'm proud to say we succeeded after 3 days ;)

My boobs.. I fed her an alternate boob each day and had 4 days of alternate boob engorgement lol.. now its all well though the boob juice still flows, I don't leak anymore. The day will come when I will stop but I'm still comfortable with feeding her in the day. Though there was one day she was drinking and starting hitting my boobs. It was then we realized my boob don't fill her up enough coz her last meal was 12 hours ago.

Sleep: I TOTALLY LOVE IT ... coz she sleeps so well , I honestly can't ask for more, with 12 hours of beauty sleep is a a damn bloody good achievement for us as a family. There wasn't any "eh eh eh " in the middle of the night though there are times she climbs on our bed to sleep in between us. But that we are not complaining as we miss her too.

DD T: although we sorted the sleeping through, it has been DD T's duty to put her to sleep every night for she still want my boob if I'm there. No carrying or patting, just rolling on the bed with no lights no TV .. it has been working well, I'm hoping for the day I can put her to sleep.

Food: Now she only eats in the day, she eats ALOT!!!

- pre breakkie 180-210ml FM

- brekkie: cereal

- lunch : whatever I feel like cooking (big bowl)

- tea: 150/180 ml of fresh milk with a big bowl of whatever fruits/yogurt

- dinner: whatever is available (big bowl)

- b4 sleep: 180-210ml FM

I wanna post photo from my iphone but my iphoto went bonkers :(

"mei mei"

Ms Ng in her english accented mandarin..."mei mei" and she speaks like the daddy n mummy! Coz our mandarin has an accent one...We are no fans of mandarin and it runs in the long line of relatives, its in the blood. I try to speak to her but fail miserably coz my brain works in english and finding words to express can be tough at times... not a good mentor to learn from. Neither do I think its healthy to mix english and chinese words all in one sentence.

So is "mei mei" is damn rare and what made me take this video was bcoz DD T dressed her up before we went to church, she walked to the kitchen and did this "mei mei' action thing.... which made me real happy coz she understood what it meant!!!

coz she knew she was all dressed up to go somewhere :)

Pre-schools

the rat race has begun...

What race you may ask? The race that is the hottest topic in town, no longer is "what primary school huh?"

It is "what preschool is your child in huh?"

I'm not joking when I say its damn competitive, IT IS.

Good luck to all and the last count for Nanyang K is at close to 600 on waitlist.. you bet!

But then comes back to this subject on why is pre school so darn important? Coz both nature and nurture is very important in this Singapore society. Nature - V's looks, her hair colour, her skin tone has indirectly affected your perception of her. Nurture - the environment I chose for her to grow up in, undivided attention or a childcare, my attachment parenting. Which is why the trend of choosing the right preschool is so important for the child. Crazy it may seem but that is the trend... the studies may show 30 years down the road that it isn't true BUT are we able to not follow this trend? the answer is NO.. why? Coz the whole of kaisu Singporeans already had a headstart in this race and we are already damn late already.

After reading so much about schools , not much as compared to others, I derived to this conclusion.

1) Learn through play

2) Scientific approach

3) Sets of Principles

Play: playground, space, outdoor, farms, swimming... basically allowing the child to have exposure to nature

Scientific: flash cards, left brain n right brain... stimulating cells not know to human

Sets of principles: studying lots, calculating numbers according to their "styles", abacus... there is a formula on how to study.

I am not going to say brands mainly I think those who have read up would understand where I am coming from. No one is paying me so I'm not endorsing for them.

Next comes the decision... why and how we want our children to grow up to be. PMET (Professional, Managers, Executive,Technician) A child is a reflection of what we have gotten as a child + 100 more stuffs!!! A child is to fulfill what the parents have NOT or can NEVER achieve in their lifetime. Example: Musicians, actor, footballer or even Miss Universe! So we as parents bring them for the 1001 lessons.. hoping that one day "the gift" will descent upon them.

So whatever route you chose is already in your mind... if you are not sure? waitlist on all 3 types of preschools.. no harm right?

edupoll’s Top 10 Elite Kindergartens / Pre-Schools in Singapore

Nanyang Kindergarten Maris Stella Kindergarten Pat Schoolhouse Newton Kindergarten St. James’ Church Kindergarten Chiltern House EtonHouse Barker Road Methodist Church Kindergarten Chatworth Kindergarten Lorna Whiston Pre-School ( in random order )

http://www.edupoll.org/content/view/185/94/

This list is something I stumble on for all to share. I do see a similarity in the schools and that is big school grounds, which I derive as play is THE most important factor in a preschool. Next comes the costing.. these are all different tiers in their price and so private or church kindy didn't make a difference in a good preschool. Only one childcare got into this list which is I believe coz Pat's is a 1st mover in childhood education/childcare. Location of all these schools has a lot of greenery which strikes a good balance to the child and maybe the air is fresher? I don't know but I know that the grounds they reside on are the expensive ones.

One professor once told me this story... it was her daughter's time to move on to a secondary school and the teacher spoke to her on her choice. She said this "My mom says any school is fine but it MUST have a big field" the teacher was shocked at her reply. The professor explained why she made that decision .. she said "every child must have the opportunity to be exposed to all things in school, never deprive a child of the space, to learn what is competitive sports, it pays in life"

It stuck to my brain; I never could take it out..

V may never get a chance to get so much space in her later years as land is a scarcity in Singapore.. so I do whatever I can in her pre-school years.

Headache now? keke ..

JG

we graduated from Julia Gabriels Term 1....

Of course there was celebration and all.. Ms Ng had 6 chicken nuggets and 2 small muffins, so bloody unhealthy but she was enjoying it and it is HER graduation party...

ya she eats damn well, no need mummy

just had to take one shot.. so cute

all her art work for the term

getting her cert

checking out her work aka destroying

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Shouted

woke up with the a terrible headache

My sinus is back... hate it! I spent the whole of yesterday with sniffles and today the sinus pressure was so intense it gave me the migraine. I hate the feeling of having such a heavy head....

DD T went to office to clear up his work due to his reservist last week and I was alone with her. Its sucks to be looking after a child with such a bad migraine and I hardly medicate. Yes, I have high tolerance level and will usually try to sleep it off but with a child... sigh.

I was really tempted to take a panadol but haven't taken it except for when she was 1 month old and I had breast engorgement with fever. Though I know that you will breast feed, we can take the normal ones but still am very wary. So "tahan" lor.

But I did give her a good shout .. MY 1ST SHOUT to her... which is why I'm blogging...

But then again I believe is forgivable... (for me)

For noise and migraine don't go very well, you know.. it amplifies

Blog

change of blog addy for my photography blog

http://throughmylensisee.blogspot.com/

After giving it much thought , it seems senseless to use a different type of blog domain as I'm so not having the effort to start learning again.

So now I can blog simultaneously in one sign in.. faster and more effective this way.

To the experts or not, please do drop me some comments for me to improve. Ta.

At the Tays

reservist this week...

So its off to the Tays as its nearer for DD T to go to camp...

things we have accomplished this week

1) sleeping by 9pm-10am (with one feed at 8am)

2) zero latching throughout the night

3) falling asleep by herself in both day and night

4) drinking her fresh milk from a cup

oh well, lets hope it lasts *crosses fingers*

So Grandma Tay is the no nonsense type lar.. the screaming thingy won't affect her. So the last few days, BB[V] has been a little bit more well behaved, sleeps early, eats her foods, play her toys... yes there is screaming still (with the parents)

this is what my mother is capable of doing... when she was screaming.. my mom pulled out all my accessories

and she was all calm... and busied herself with her and my SLR was available.. click click click

then it started AGAIN...

Her visit to the doc

made some calls....

Spoke to PD Dr Tan about her erratic behavior and after discussing for 15 mins on the phone, we decided to get her check. So its off to Dr Phang at Mount Elizabeth...

Well she is all fine, no neurological issues about her breath holding issues though the Dr Phang wasn't any Dr McSteamy but has 20 years of experience under his belt. This of course came with a hefty bill of $160 just to chit chat. But it was worth the money as now we now how to handle if this breath holding episode goes on.

He advised us to totally ignore her behaviour and bear with the screaming. NEVER give in at all and continue with whatever we are doing. Honest, this sounds real easy IF you have plenty of help at home. But for a hands on mummy, stay at home, no help mummy.. it is crazy!! Well I'm sure you guys know what I mean.

Dr also recommend to "detach" from her.. for her own good, apparently.... I must be HARD HEARTED so he says. I mention that I'm planning to wean her off breast-feeding and he was like "You have done a good job by doing it over a year.. its time" *sighs* How reluctant I may be sometimes it takes someone else to tell you to stop.

He too advise that being hard hearted will need me to be doing my things and allow help, whatever help it may be... to look after her as I go out to do my shopping, have tea or whatever. Basically take a break, cause sometimes kiddos knows who to manipulate - THE PARENTS. The issue now is that they do not understand discipline and reasoning.. so there is no point to try talking your way out or trying to discipline by using "time-out" as to everything now is play time. We were casually saying that we should send her to a childcare to "rough" it out and there always be people around her. But he frown upon the idea haha, besides the illnesses that childcare brings, nothing is compared to undivided attention.

Although she shows signs of intelligence, if this screaming behaviour doesn't stop by the time she knows how to talk... then is off to the behaviour therapist to "concoct" something out for everyone to follow - including her teachers. (Pm me if you need the contacts) I mention to him about BB[V] developments and her teachers evaluation of her in JG, that he can call her if he needs a professional opinion about her behaviour outside. He was real pleased when I told him BB[V] attends JG and he said "Great school and she learns good things there." This statement totally made me so continuing her school till 4 years old.. lol

Talk about great marketing... brain specialist leh! ahem neurologist.

Photography

I like photography but don't know how to go about doing it properly.

Reading the manual ain't going to make me all an expert you know. By the way, the manual sucks coz its so technical, Then when you ask other peeps, they shot you with the jargons that are way out of this world. I freaking don't know aperture, shutter speed, F stop, exposure or whatever. I only know how to point and shoot, arrange it a little aka to have a better composition.

But there is so much you can discover for yourself and fiddling fiddling it without any knowledge ain't going to make me any smarter. I'm no "I learn everything by myself one and I'm waiting for you to say I'm a genius" (rolls eyes 360 degrees). Plus my iphoto can only help me this much to edit my photos and though I really need to learn how to Photoshop (but thats another story altogether)

So I chanced upon Black Box Photography's webbie, Ken by the way is the photographer (recommended by friend) that we engaged for Victoria's birthday party. We liked the way the photos came out and all agreed that ken is an awesome photographer. So what better person to learn from and I didn't even do my homework by researching or so. The price was right, the person was right, I need to learn an so...

Totally loved the classes coz it cleared up alot of the clouds and then those questions that I never knew how to ask (deeming stupid ones) finally had an answer. Though there are still clouds but its the light fluffy ones, those that makes the blue sky pretty type.

So I have started a blog to write down my thoughts and post my photos for all to learn, admire. Coz its not fun to learn photography without interaction and comments that makes one better. My mind can only work this dimension while everyone can give me many dimension that I can't see.

So this is my blog..

http://throughmylensisee.blogspot.com/

Teething chart

I can feel the molars coming... after checking the chart, I realized they skip the cuspid

Lower central incisor

RHS: 18 August 2009

LHS: 18 August 2009

Lower Lateral Incisor

RHS: 15 January 2010

LHS: 28 January 2010

Upper central incisor

RHS: 30 November 2009

LHS: 20 Decemeber 2009

Upper Lateral Incisor

RHS: 18 February 2010

LHS: 23 February 2010

high need toddler

Changing personality profile of a high need baby (Dr Sears)

INFANT

alert

intense
draining
demanding
cries impressively
loud
unconsolable
supersensitive

high-touch

TODDLER CHILD

busy

high-strung
exhausting
spunky
energetic
stubborn
impatient
strong-willed
obstinate
discerning
challenging
expressive
tantrum-prone
interesting
tender
huggable

TEEN ADULT

enthusiastic
deep
passionate
resourceful
dominating
opinionated
determined
persistent
insightful
fair
sociable
compassionate
empathetic
caring
affectionate

So damn accurate...

We are desperate... she just spent 2 hours screaming on the bed finally decided to sleep at 11pm.. was upset about EVERYTHING. So tired.... DD T wants to get her checked .. for any behavioural issues you know.. coz it's been too taxing for the both of us since she was little... then there is the breath holding thingy that we are concern about coz its seems this tantrum throwing might just trigger it again.

We need to get it done right....or get the expert to tell what is it that we are doing right or wrong. We rather get the problem fixed when she is small then when she decides to lie on the floor of the shopping centre refusing to move.. omg I will DIE there!!

Though I don't know if the expert will think that this 2 crazy parents who got too much money to spare and end up telling us that 13 months is way too young to diagnose anything. Then come on man.. why is BB[V] so darn difficult and different from her peers?? There is so much I can read and find in the web or library. I am in need for explanation, coz I don't like what we are going through.

How? Tell me she is not one child that is full of pattern... right?