Phase 2

remember the screaming phase? its back and worse....

we are quite prepared for the screaming, I mean been there done that, just tahan and it will pass... now is stomping of the tiny feets, pulling the clothes/hands to follow HER, "talk to my hand".

I explain the situation to her teacher Lin about her biting thingy, apparently biting is the most mild... children are known to beat, slap, kick, fight... gosh *sweats*, I read alot in detail and it seems that biting is their way of trying to communicate themselves. Its the most apparent to toddlers who are trying to vocalize themselves but is unable to do so. This biting will stop once the child starts talking (trust me I'm praying real hard). Lin explained that Bb[V] has a high EQ with makes it difficult to accept her lack of talking skills. The fact that she is high EQ, we have to pre empt her behaviour way before her peers. We have to accept that we do not have a difficult child just because her friends haven't gone through it... just that she has the problems months before them. I do sometimes look at her friends and see the issues that we faced and am glad I had it oredi, but I guess issues like this are ongoing coz I have a new one now *boo hoos*

The last round, she was screaming about everything that didn't go her way. She didn't understand the concept of time: eg she screamed when it was time to leave the pool, leave the playground, walked out of the toy shops. The teachers taught me to give her instructions on time "3 more minutes Victoria, 1 more minute Victoria" It worked and she stopped her crying. From here she understood that I wasn't abruptly stopping her games or the taking the things she loved.

They warned me about the sharing concept... its here this time round. Children will never understand why they have to share, coz they have the toy means its theirs. By "sharing" to them means; YOU ARE TAKING IT AWAY AND IT WILL NEVER COME BACK. (actually true lar...lol) So they fight with the parent or their friends. They fall in and out of this phase till 3-4 years old, it doesn't mean that the child looks okie today and so he is over the phase... so as parents we must constantly remind them about it. This proves to be rather tough this time as it seems that she is bullying her peers whens she snatches the toys or refuse to share.

Now that she is walking, she hates her beco carrier and her stroller (was never her fav anyway). She insists on walking, carrying, walking and carrying! Damn difficult, trust me.. It totally drains us. Doesn't help that when she walks in a crowded place and goes round touching ppl's legs, bottoms. Or that she goes to a shop and touches EVERYTHING. Then when you correct her, she shakes her head or makes some noise that gets the attention of the people around.

I'm quite banning her from her friends until this is over and becomes the sweet girl (sometimes) again. DD T says this are all inevitable, ya i know.. but she is better of going out with me alone or with my girlies as the only baby. Its really not easy as a mother and go through the amount of sorries and explanation ...I just have to put a smile through my embarrassment and remind myself that its just motherhood.