The Cores

There has been uproar of comments of recent happenings, the Caucasian and that little boy- both who were very opinionated. It got me thinking that character is very important isn't it? It wasn't just this, the husband went in for reservist recently and was commenting how the younger boys tend to push their luck a little further, when they know rules are rules. (Example like not wearing their army cap or something)  I was pretty surprised by his statement, was like "You mean you don't do it?" He casually replied, "There are things you can try pushing your luck, but rules of the army, I don't."

I thought hard, I must say he is a very disciplined person in terms of business or personal growth. So why is the army, uniformed group so strict? I believe it really has to do with conforming to rules to make you a better person isn't it? From young, I was a rebel in any ways.. I believe we all felt that we were "rebellious" once, just to what degree. Now as a parent, I find ways to help develop my child and it seems that 3 things are very important to the growth of a child. So lets see what my family's top 3 cores are.

Core 1 - Value System

In my post of "How to find the Right Husband" states that having a faith is important and bringing a child in faith is important. I grew up with faith, going to church and practicing it without knowing much what it is. Of course as I grew up, there were many questions about my faith like everyone and if it's the right one for me? Some parents argue that a religion is not important and that the child can decide to choose what he/she wants when she grows up. Well, it will be too late by then. My founding years of beliefs have grown onto me and I thank my parents for insisting that I go church every week. In every religion, it ONLY teaches you good. The bad comes from opinions.  My main core makes me who I am: Respect, Empathy, Love, Honour, Praise, the readings of Sunday mass is embedded, the songs of praise etched in my mind and I sing songs of praise when I feel down knowing that the problems will go away because I believe. Why deny the child of this? With that, the value system is the core that allows the person never to stray far for he/she knows it is wrong.

Core 2 - Discipline

Many parents send their children to maybe Music, Ballet, Aikido. Of course, we say its because the child loves music, enjoys dancing, self defence etc. But deep down we all know, it just because we want to instill discipline in a child doing something they love. Discipline is inculcated in a positive environment without the child feeling that it being too stifling. That why some parents doesn't see the need to send the child in their early stages of their lives unless their reason is otherwise. Now, why is discipline important? Discipline = Will Power. Now, do you see it as a core? Without the will power, that person loses purpose, loses desire, loses the need to excel.

There are many ways of introducing discipline from other sources besides parenting.
Military disciple = Army, which is why it is "From Boys to Men"right? There are also the Scouts, the Guides and Uniformed groups like the band in school! Beside disciple, the child learns teamwork!
Education discipline = Specialization of subjects, learning and instructions.
School discipline= Set of rules to abide and teachers that control behaviour. I know there is another school of thoughts like home schooling. But the parents will have already done enough homework to segregate parenting discipline/academic/school discipline. But for me? I will seriously get myself confused to go in out of roles so often!

Core 3 - Sportsmanship

This came about recently and I never though of it as important. Many of my friends were bringing their children to rock climbing and I had a convo on if we should do so. I believe that sports are important but didn't know which one helps. One fine day, the husband came to tell me we should do gymnastics. I was like huh, why? He explained that most important thing in sports are the core muscles, once you have educated/strengthen your core muscles... you can do any and everything without breaking that leg, that hand due to clumsiness. True isn't it? That's the reason why some people are just that flexible and have that inner strength? It's because their core muscles are well build! They can just do anything required with their body! I see it so important now that I signed up Yoga, just because it can help my aging body to build core muscles. Well, better late than never, isn't it? I'm sure alot of you will question this core but in my opinion, if I was great in sports I may never go through that rebellion stage in my life because I have competitive sports to burn off that teenage angst . I had a lecturer who shared that the most important aspect she looks for in a school is the school field. She said that every child couldn't be denied of space to run and do sports as it will help them most in their being. I didn't quite understand it then but as I grew older, I finally do.


This is my family's pick of what is important. If you want to know why I chose these 3?

 It's a simple answer: 

The Mind (Will Power), the Soul (Faith) the Body (Muscles)