Bully or not?

V has been complaining about this boy that likes to pull her hair in school. There are days where I pick her up and she will look dishevelled as in her ponytail will have strands of mess falling. She will defend to tell me her classmate pulled it.

Now this week, she has given up on her friend and told me his name. Hoping that - well I'm not sure, protect her?

V: mummy, this Daniel keeps pulling my hair! So irritating you know. I keep telling not to do it but he still does!
Me: well, I think he likes u which is why he wants to touch your hair. You know how it is when u like that someone, you make an effort to play and talk to him/her? Leave him alone, he will stop eventually
V : okie mummy I try .

V: daddy, my friend keeps pulling my hair in school!
Daddy: who's that? Show me next time! I will pull him by his neck (he wanted to say balls actually) and swear he will stop it .
V : *keeps her mouths shut and never complain again.

My child , growing up with balanced parenting :D

Daddy n lunch

I had to be away for the afternoon, so daddy took her for lunch. We have realised she quite like Soup restaurant & daddy likes the minced meat with salted fish (their signature dish). This is what he sent to me just now... He is definitely happy in that restaurant

Growing up

Me n trev were in our bed and we looked across to her bed... We saw a child that has tripled in size and growing so pretty. Ain't we blessed :D

potty training

So we finally decided it was time.... 

She was trained much earlier to go diaperless until she caught a rash from peeing at Ion children's toilet and it was panic station. We reverted her back to diapers for our trips outside and it took us a while to solve the rash issue. I guess girls are more prone to this.... just have to mindful this round.

We decided to go full force, getting an attached child toilet seat as I do find the single child seat to be slightly unstable when it comes to wanting to poo.. she kinda of panics when it moves slightly lol... doesn't help that she has her legs hanging.. so there is a slight insecurity. We searched around and found this hardware shop that was selling at $20. Definitely a good buy :)

After thinking real hard about how to go about it, I decided to dangle a carrot. Nope its not stickers or gifts to complete this challenge, she gets to go for her ballet once she completely goes diaperless (night sleep included) She has been bugging me for her ballet (zzzzz)and violin - we have all all the instruments in this house and she insists on one we DON"T! anyway thats another post altogether. 

Yes I decided to stir her self determination, I have been noticing the children around and are amazed at how spoon fed they have become. Enrichments after enrichments, its like given to them becoz they want it (or rather the parents ) That's not the way I wan V to grow up, I want her to have that urge to work towards a goal, a dream. Its important to me as a trainer, one of the toughest thing I find coaching is that Singaporeans no longer have dreams, goals and desires. I work hard with my consultants to make them find it. So its important that V doesn't fall into this comfort zone.  I need her to learn that having determination, concentrating on a goal, you will in turn achieve a dream :D 

This is a right time for her to start on making decisions as she is very understanding of her surroundings. So we are going to make sure that every single course that she is keen on doing, she has to work towards it. Its absolutely interesting as after I had this conversation with her, she tells everyone to keep the diaper away from her and is determined to go diaperless. Now this is what I want to see in my girl, doing somethings BECAUSE she wants to. She woke up today and asked me "Am I ready for ballet yet?" and my answer is "You are almost there, you can do it" 

Growing up a lady

I think most of you would have known by now my expectations of Victoria. Guess god knows I'm an awesome mother to girls as I know what to do with them. It's known that I don't push her to excel in her learning curve, it's fine she is crazily terrible in her alphabets, Chinese, knows zero maths or any structure science or stuffs. But she is one with fantastic music talents, speaks well as a 3 yr old, steady manners, gladly very respectable to everyone. Most of not, I trained her not to be a racist. :)

She hardly wears pants or shorts unless to the playground, choses her dresses everytime. Well, it really doesn't matter to me that she wears the same old dresses most of the time, not be coz she has these few, but she has her preferences. I once attended a seminar and the speaker was sharing with us about dressing and how that one should not have casual dressing . It's shows that you take life casually, I mean it's okie u are going to the park or beach. Every since that day, I abolished all casual dressing. I need the child to know that everyday is of importance to her. Something I am ass particular about is that she must wear under pants. From the days of newborn till now, I never allow her not having bloomers or panties. She is never allowed to walk around just a diaper and a dress. This is to cultivate modesty, well I guess most will say there is a diaper, it should be okie . But hanging loose is not a privilege.

V does more outdoor stuffs then being cooped up at home. Weekly is swimming 2x , playground or cycling almost daily. This I read helps with myopia right? Hahaha and also it's a privilege in this estate so we make use of it.

V is a privilege child to be one who sits in fine dining restaurants since young. Nope the father hates eating small bite sized things that he ends up paying $400 for a bill, so he will never bring her. But for me, I don't bat an eyelid if it costs us $150 for lunch , us me n V. It's just my thing, I love quietness and ambience when I'm dining alone. So V goes to have tea with me often, it's great practice. It's has important to always look good with her legs cross, napkin on her lap, drinking from china, eating from proper cutleries... Most importantly she makes a point to do it well. She knows when it's time to be good, so to be its always good money spent and she is my favourite partner to have a nice meal.

Being away (her)

We spent saturday meeting with my family for a mass, will blog about it when I get a nice photo from the couz. My sister decided to whisk V away after lunch for a day out with her cousins. So Trev and I thought we sort of need the break and was pleasingly pleased with the time off. I had to do a class for 2 hours while Trev decides to go home to nap. Met up again at 5pm where we have absolutely NO IDEA what to do!!  This is the odd things about life, when you finally get the time to spend quality time together, you don't know what to do :( hahaahha. So we went to a mall, did the lamest thing by shopping, had a nice dinner and bought diapers!!! In between V & I spoke over the phone and she was ENJOYING herself to the max!  No nap, no milk for the whole day and just pure screaming with the cousins. I was sure she was having fun. 

During the labour day weekend, we took our god daughter back and my nieces/ sister was calling us so often. The nieces kept doing ichat with us, today I finally understood how they were missing their sister. They are planning more sleepovers now and I think V is ready to be not near us. *Sobs hahahah

We rushed back when my sister was on her way home with V, told the helper to get her ready for bed. We were excited for a debrief of the day but came back to this... at 8pm. *K/O with maximum pleasure fulfilled.  

(I bought Merries diapers coz of a good feedback from a dear girlfriend-those who gives me the lobangs ahhaha. V woke up and I asked her how was it? She gave me a thumb-up... "Mummy, good. It is very soft" She spends the next 3 mins playing with the gel of the diapers near the bum bum area. )

  

cum?

That day in FB, there was this mummy blogger who exclaimed in FB how she hates the word CUM. I laughed at it as I was just thinking it a few days ago. I cringed always at this word, think it was one of the consultant promoting her workshop and labelled it a Makeup cum Training session. I was pretty much turned off.... It doesn't help that most people use it as a short abbreviation of come, coming. The mummy bloggers went into a full force commenting at her status that it because we know what the cum means and had a great laugh about it.

It totally didn't help at the situation when a few days later when I was reading Temasek Times and this came up! hahhaha it was hilarious.... I show it to Trev and was commented how ignorant people are becoming. He was "Do this ppl actually knows where it comes from?"

Then there was another day, a friend posted on how disturbing he is on how singaporeans are misusing the word shag (aka as F***), making comments like "I am so shagged" which is Omg i just finish having S** , so I am announcing it! Although he did write that a better word is shack, but after a trip to wiki, it just as bad :D hahhah. So maybe we should just remove this word out of our convo. It seems that the origins of this misused word came from Austin Powers the movie, actually come to think about it, it did become trendy abouts that time, didn't it?

Colouring

V has a knack for liking colouring and she is pretty particular about it. Cannot be too big coz it takes up too much of her energy and it cannot be too small as she will color outside of the photo. She has her daily quiet time that she sits at her table doing her "homework". She was pretty proud of this artwork, for I don't know what reason... But I like the way she colours, very neat.
It's on the fridge now ...

Followers ?!

You go around searching for people to follow you, may it be on a social platform like Twitter, Facebook, even blogging right? Or you stir your friends to buy the same products coz it damn awesome, go the same stylist, even doctor *the extreme. So I have this syndrome too, In fact I think alot of people do. Then came that day, I realised there is no need to search for it. I have one near me.

Presenting my daughter who got inspired by my gelish to create her own. This has nothing to do with me it's purely her creation and I think f***ing fantastic!!!!

how i started

I stumbled on this blog... then it reminded me how I started out my business venture. Thought I spend some time on it, well women need to share their success and let that one other person be inspire.... Not now but eventually I guess. There are many mummies or women out there who never was able to move out of their rut.

So it started 2 years ago, after not working for about 2 years, pregnant and a full time breast feeding mother with no help (besides the not awaken husband then.. yes we went through the stage he took me for granted days)  I was hungry, hungry for a thirst to want to do something, you know how you go into forums, chatting with mothers day in and out, SAHM always had something to do, extra something to keep them sane. I don't envy the FTWM, even up till now... I just find that the time spend working a fixed time can be maximized alot better. The SAHM will always be selling something, very entrepreneurish.... doesn't help that I will be their customer, may it be buying bedsheets, milkbags, the whatever stuffs. I saw an opportunity that a full time mother still gets things done. I have gone to MRT to pick up products and see them with their children in tow, while me ermm.. put them at my mum's while I run silly errands like this. Then I realized I have alot more to learn...

I crave to go and study, to satisfy the thirst of wanting to learn. Its just me... when I was flying, I was constantly studying... there will always be that something I want to learn - going crazy with independence at 18 years old *aka as excessive clubbing with too much money, got mature then it was driving, diploma-degree, then it was wine sommelier diploma, oh then I had to get married which took up much time. I stopped work to be a mother, there was LOADS to read, that kept me occupied for a long time. Then I picked up photography, by that time I got bored. I called my old school and requested to study a MBA, they were willing to sponsor 1/2 of the course fee. So that was in the pipeline... all because I was bored :D

The husband was pretty against it, he was like seriously? Study again? Better off using that money to do a biz or something. Like what can you get from a MBA, so I chucked that aside. Searched the net for businesses to do, *sigh everything needed a capital which was pretty crappy. Then came the inevitable, should I work?

I have been seeing this video "shared" by my fb friends... Watched it but not feel.... UNTIL THAT DAY, I HEARD IT OVER THE RADIO AT 7AM, OUT LOUD AND IT RAWKED!!!!!!!!! now... I'm glued to it.

New blog roll

I finally moved my butt to get things organized. I need new ideas, fresh blood... the usual blogs i have been reading have slowed down tremendously and this is not good as I do need to get motivated at times when I write. Got me-self a whole new awesome blog roll from the mummies bloggers community.... have been inside the community for a while but yet haven't got the accessibility to read them all and leave them a "hello". (don't wanna be rude right?) Now that I have gotta it organized in my blog, it will be nice to have new reading materials when I am having my time out. I an a reader, I read everywhere... even on my throne :p, its extreme until I read shampoo bottles if I'm bored. kekeke terrible right?

It was till recent times that I discovered that I am a visual print learner- aka as a person who reads to learn.  I don't fancy pictures much, which means blogs with too many pictures don't entice me... worse if its just a blog of the children's art work, what they are learning *yawns....  I don't find it enticing, I mean its nice and all... but not my cuppa. If you have awesome photos, it nice to look at, but if its just photos and no words... *yawns...  then comes another type... just words, if you have penmanship, I am in! Anytime... but still would love good looking photos, best if your child is cutesy or better still THE husband *drools. Hey I mean why not right? A parenting blogger writes mostly on their children or family right?  :D

I am impartial when it comes to reading parenting blogs, there are mummies who "c'mon writes that the child is a genius and an angel" it really too becomes real boring... coz no one can relate to you, for the 99% of us read parenting blogs to learn from someone else horrible and terrible experience. We are all recipients of your sufferings, that is why we can link to you la!!!

So I am on my search for new blogs that are going to rock my world...  I skimmed through all and I saw a few that I liked and will be paying them more visits. I like real blogs... :P

my real life barbie doll

Sometimes, the things she does reminds me of my childhood. V is learning her DO RE ME as in Doe a deer a female deer, ray a drop of golden sun song...  its wonderful as it really reminds me of what I went through as a young girl. She is in the barbie/princess doll stage, which means a new collection all together.*sigh. Have I ever mentioned that she has a group of obsessive fans that helps her with her addiction.... 1st was a snow white doll, 2nd came a princess aurora, 3rd a barbie, 4th ...... it doesn't stop. Anyway, she deserves to be pampered. I leave it as it is....

There was one day I came down to see her cutting her Barbie's hair!!! kekeke..... so cute, I so remembered when I used to wash their hair - so that it grows thicker, and cut their so that the hair grows faster. So there wasn't any scolding, I mean we all go through that la!!! Talking about hair cut, V doesn't go for any professional hair cut, I'm the professional stylist hyak hyak.... nothing fanciful, just a scissors from Guradian and I snip snip snip it off. 

So now I really understand why I have such a girly girl.... she is my real life barbie doll :)

its back

Finally, like almost a month in the clinic, the macbook pro is back! Paid abouts $160 for the software, had to specially get the installation Cd sent to me which explains the duration that it was kept in the clinic.... what ever it is, definitely better having to buy a new one... one month it is a brand new laptop, loaded with all the updated software etc. Feels like a $2k machine now