Couple Time

So we spending more time together


Years ago, we attended the mandatory Marriage Preparatory Course (MPC) requested by the Catholic Church. It was to prepare us on what lies in out 50 + years ahead as a married couple. We both found it to be very enriching, had a note book where we jot down our thoughts on why we decided to chose each other as our lifetime spouse and was ask to read if we get unsure in the future.

We completed the course, came home, passed the notebook to my mom for safekeeping and have yet took it out since. I remember at one point, the priest gave us a very good advice in which me and DD T will always remember for the rest of our lives. "Remember even after having children,  you must never allow the children to take over the time spend that YOU as a married couple should have together. Both of you are a UNIT, and that with children, you all are a family."

I'm sure there were many advices given that day but me n DD T kinda remembered that one. We feel that it was a very real issue as once we become parents, we forgot what was "US" anymore. You get sucked up with the chores, the cries, the frustration of being new parents, how involved the grands should be or not, and how something so beautiful gave us un-necessary squabbles. 

Now that V is all grown up and sleeps through the night, we try our best to go out on dates, rekindle relationship as a married couple; which is darn important. In the past, whenever we go out with our friends, its always one or the other as someone has to look after V. Even if we put V at the grands, one of us will stay with her just to enlighten and explain to the grands how to "look" after her.  In the last 2 months, we have been making efforts to go out with friends and do things we used to do before, wine + dine, bullshit to each other and basically have fun. Of course now we don't drink to get high to have fun coz we have to deal with V. Even at home, I stopped using my laptop and actually make a point to watch shows together after V has fallen asleep.

I believe both of us appreciate such times as a couple, things we do before we start planning for a 2nd one.  I think V is really lucky to have us as parents... for even we may not do roses, champagne, chocolates and all that... she has parents who has endless and wonderful conversations every time.