I woke up late, just one of those mornings we decided to sleep in.. V slept at 720pm the night before, saturday was ridiculously horrible day, she decide to behave odd.. With lots of screaming and crying.. We call days like these "the eclispe day" something about the moon emitting odd stuffs to make children behave like werewolf...
Anyway, we worked together to apprehend situations like this. Had to go Little India to get her outfit for school on Wednesday.. Was a warm warm day.. She refused her nap which made matters worse.. So we forced to keep her awake till 7-ish, then change her to her PJ and she finally fell asleep in the car.
She slept 15 hours straight, woke up at 1015 Sunday morning... *bliss I got dressed to go Chace's bb thingy before I left for my champagne brunch at mezzanine at hyatt.
After 6 flutes of Pierre Jouet, 4 glasses of Cloudy Bay, many oysters, 2 slices of foie gras, roast beef, dessert and many more stuffs later... Oh I cut cake too!!! Left my favourite girlies at mezzanine and decided to go fix the hair. Reckoned this was the time to go light on the hair for after years of school, 11 years of strict decoram when flying, 3 years of pregnancy/bf ... I was ready to go light.. Just a little lighter la
Anyway the post is not about the hair, it's about what happen after. For some reason, while in paragon, I happen to share a cab with a lady who was going my direction... She was to go metro and get a Loreal face cream.. Haha Something about how she travelled to 3 metro today just to get the item... Was telling me how her helper likes it and she is buying for her too ... So the conversation turned to helpers and how to manage them. Although they have differences she has gotten it straighten it out and was able to fly away on her golf trips with the hb, leaving her 2 kids to the helper. She further stressed that as a mother is not about feeding them, bathing them and washing their bum, all these she never does, leaving it to the helper. Doesn't believe in eating the children's leftover or sharing their food with them. Monday-Friday is their own time = school and she /hb will play with them only on sat/sun for half a day, spending only quality time by going to park, arcade or what not. After that half day, the both of them will go out to do their own things.
I asked her how old her kids are.. 5 and 4 she said.. Stating that she was rather old when she got married (now 38) which made her the mother she is, for she refused to be like her mother or sister.. Both from what I hear are hands on mummies... For she said she didn't want to grumble about the lack of money or trying their best by scrimping cash like not taking taxi but take a bus for short distance.
She feels that parenting is about managing people.. Taking a step back and let the "worker" do their job and telling the children what she expects. If it's a no means no and "if that doesn't make her happy, it's a no"
She and her husband have no issues on flying away on leisure at any point for she says the helper will report to her on everything that happens. The last was a week away with no help from grands... Insisting that money solves all issues, for all she needs is to leave money at home and the helper brings them to dr when they are sick. She is looking for a 2nd help since government gives her subsidy for children and don't know what else. A believer that money does the job for her....
Hmmmm.. What do u gals think?
Came back, sat down to see this... My daughter spending her day with daddy = new toys...
Related the story to DD T, he sat there wide eyed, thinking very hard on what to say... His reply was " I'm very sure she will end up in a old folks home with no one to care for, as like she said, money solves all issues... " "oh and her children will end up with a maniac in Facebook for she doesn't monitor and I guess it's the maid who may eventually be the person to tell her as it's the maid's job to report right... For does she care?"
I'm so glad that I have a husband that thinks like me... For I kept very quiet the whole trip...
Oh and V did this... Feeding mickey...she sat there for a loooong time.. Think she is feeding milk keke
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6 comments:
i absolutely agree with what your hubby said. I was shocked when I was reading your blog. Thank God that I am not her daughter. totally disagree with the way she raise her children.
oh ya.....Ipcolas feeds his Barney soft toy too :)
Oh my! I am totally speechless! At the back of my mind, I was thinking why she have children in the first place? She is totally selfish who only think for herself and not willing to let go of her current lifestyle.... I pity her children....
How did you keep quiet? I don't think that's the point of having kids...sigh. But there are a lot of weekend parents in Singapore. They leave their kids at the grandparents house Monday to Friday and see their kids during the weekend. The concept is lost on me.
But I do like having a helper so I feel somewhat sane.
i just dun agree with her lah. :(
but there are just people out there alot like her whom thinks this way and tats just life.
yes ladies!!! i m so glad u all think like me.. sad right? sometimes i think ppl that thins like me are rare now.. sobx
M: nothing to say so kept quiet... think ppl like that i dont need to say much as they have already made up their minds
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