Lunch with V

I'm in wine company after JG....

It's our regular joint especially on days I am damn not want to drive abouts to look for food. Today is one of those days I bring V to school myself as DD T takes a break from her. Brought her to the almost empty wine connection for brunch and she insist on EGGS, so I got us the sunny side up breakfast set. Have you ever gone for a meal and orders your child the food and you end up eating it .... zzzzz

I don't like breakfast food, what eggs, sausage etc. The food came and she wanted the toast, egg yolk and refused the rest. I was eating my salad and she ate up all my avocado So I place side order of avocado (which I think cost me a fare bit), she ate 1.5 pieces and refused. Then continues eating her butter while I had to eat the sausage etc. When I was about to finish she say she wants more eggs *faints

So I am sitting here blogging so she can decide what is her lunch before I eat all up, of course by the time I finish this blog, I would have filled up. She still thinks that butter rawks . Oh well .. all that money spent








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Donation to charity

We finally decided on the charity... bought the stuffs and I delivered to the charity org's office. They thanked me and I told them its a donation from my daughter. Totally felt GOOD!!!! Hahahah well done Victoria!



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playing with daniel

Her friends from Norway

Long long time ago, I made a friend here in my blog....

We chat about our struggles as preggers who shared the same gyane, 1st time mummies, total breast feeding, no help, too active/bullying child.... how time files and they 2 kiddos are already 2 years old. I definitely had it better as she was alone far far away in Norway while I was in the cosy Singapore. Oh did I mention she conceived while Daniel was about 9 months old = tough.

We hooked up 1st on Msn and later in Fb, although I have never meet her, we felt very connected to each other. So when I heard from her that she was coming to Singapore, we had to meet up!!!  I drove to her parents place; easier for her as logistics was a toughie. We arrived and the prince was sleeping and so we played with princess Sofia; alamak damn pretty can die... (anyone who has remedy for skin condition, can help?) D woke up and after much drama coz didn't have enough sleep, played masak masak with V using utensils. basin etc... hahhaha

They got on pretty well but V enjoyed playing with S more, hugging and attempting to carry her. Putting her hands around her lots, really very caring towards her. I presume she is at that stage of playing "baby" Didn't care much about D though ... Mummy and I was busy catching up, not forgeting we were  so excited to be able to meet each other after knowing each other for 2 years in the digital world. We connected immediately and spoke like long lost friend. 

Can't wait for them to return when I can play a better host when S is much bigger...  I have attached a video of the kiddos playing which was cuteness... 

Preparation for preschool

Since we are on this topic, let me do a post on this.

Before I decided on this school, (I took 3 months by the way) I brought her to 2 schools that is of walking distance of my inlaws. I definitely can't do this on my own and need help to pick her, emergencies cases etc, so it has to be near someone. (http://victoria-eden.blogspot.com/2010/12/playgroup.html)

My final decision was actually done by Victoria herself. She attended both schools 2 times, basically I requested to hang around and watch what is going on with her for 30-1 hour each time, just to have a know how on the school operates, the teachers manners, hygiene rendered, behaviors of her classmates, temperature of her daily life in school etc. Very comprehensive thoughts right? but hey you all been reading my blog for 3 years, you should know me by now.

By the end of 2 sessions with each individual school, I concluded that V enjoyed the schoolhouse alot better despite her complains of it being "hot" (not air conditioned). The teachers there was able to get her involved in the activities, classmates were very well mannered, old school structure but the vibes were alot better. The centre however had 3 super rowdy boys, the ones that potentially would provoke V, too empty a school to actually judge the daily goings. (few other stuffs that I frown on but lets keep it as so)

When I finally settled on it, paid my fees.. drove almost every time we were at grands to the schoolhouse and told her she is starting school, that this is her new school. Like advised by Mrs Sim, we bought her a new water bottle, new bag, packed her bag together, chose her "security" something -Elly toy, bascially got her involved. On the day of school, inspired by Ashley's daddy little prep talk after all her drama, I spoke to her "Victoria, today is your 1st day of school, please listen to your teachers, no fighting, no biting, no crying" We shook our little pinkies and we dropped her off. I didn't hang around in class as I already knew what to expect as I did all that during my research. I did the prep talk for 4 days and on friday, just told her "Please enjoy school okie" That was it.

Today, she refused to change into her uniform, wore her PJ top and school bottom, cried heaps when the grandparents left her. But was told that by the time she went inside to get a tissue, she stopped and never cried after. I can't really gather my thoughts to do my work which is why I'm blogging as its officially Victoria's day today as I was so worried about week 2. But its seems, all has settled in pretty well.

Like all women, when the one thing that troubles us is settled... we can finally work in peace.

Separation anxiety

On friday she showed signs of separation anxiety, we kinda expected it as there was a change in daily doings. Its the toughest on the mother, what's new right? She woke up a few times in the night looking for me, sudden screams and DD T told me she had alot to eat for dinner, 30 mins of cereal from the cereal prawns... so I concluded it could be a full dinner.

Saturday was real rough after JG as she insisted on being in the driver seat and "drive" but I never succumb to anything that gotta to do with safety. Which makes me a excellent crew right? hahahh That day my girlfriend was complaining on how she has to carry her 22 months old girl on her lap -DRIVING every morning to work and back! I fainted... of course like all mothers there will always be reasons like she doesn't sit in her car seat and how there was once she was dangling from her carseat head down.. etc. But I told her straight.. safety can never be compromised! I am very strict on things like this, there should never be bargaining on situations like this. Like how V never gets to stand on the escalator with me, or that she must hold my hands when we are walking along the road and has walk on the inside. I never give in!

Back to saturday, V never behaved like this before but I settle here in 20 mins and drove off while she sits in her seat, then came the grumbling! She wanted milk, hello we just had lunch? but they whining went on and on, then it turned to tears and more drama. So had no choice but to get off the expressway and prepared her milk... sat behind with her, fed her milk then she decides that she wants me to carry and the whole things lasted 30 mins or so. She pointed to everything on that street "what this ? what this? what this?" she finally got bored and agreed to sit in her car seat while I drove off quickly. Then the grumbling started "mummy carry , carry , carry" I swear I never had this for the longest time!!!! It seems I have to retrain her in her carseat, *faint.

Sunday was carry, carry, carry... think I gotta pull out the sling for she is no longer light.  I took it in my stride as I know school causes mayhem to the child. Then the stickiness is pengs.... Max to the max. DD T can't help me in anything.. it's just me and me. Tomorrow starts week 2, omg I think it will peak.

八连拍

Mary Kay

everyone in Mary Kay has a story to tell..... written when I was deciding to go for my directorship 

I joined in March 2010, went into Sales director Christina's skincare class, sat down and was pretty much convinced with the products. Didn't seemed like a con job, prestigious looking company with great credentials and so I signed up with Mary kay with $100 (to get a bag of products that is worth more than that amount) that very day as I really do need that range of skincare to go back to work and to get that at 30% was pretty much a good deal.

As like all normal people, I was one of those who left my Mary Kay bag in a corner while I carried on with my daily life forgetting I joined something until Belle reminded me to place an order in April... Plus the fact I was free so I agreed on attending some class to get $100 off my purchase. That day I learnt more about MK and its unique culture, and yes I was falling asleep most of it as its been years since I attended a course!!! It was really just something I wanted to enrich myself in the midst of parenting....

I placed my 600 points order and waited for the products to arrive and by that time its was May. Used the products with lots of enthusiasm and the effect was amazing! So that month Belle asked me to attend some unit meeting for some training which I decided "okie really no harm in seeing" Then OMG I was amazed by the enthusiasm of the women I saw that day.. like come on this is so unreal! Tears, hugs, laughters.. I sat there with folded arms and decided I may have stepped into a cult or something. Left the place and decided that this is not my cup of tea.

That month I was asked to help out in a school's event; corporate skincare class for the teachers and thought oh well... why not. Since parenting was starting to take its toll on me and I needed a valid reason to do something with minimum cost... and so I followed. Totally learned alot that day and spend my hours talking and chatting up with people and left very pleased with myself and so decided to ask my mummy friends if they were keen on attending one similar to one I just attended. Approached Shann 1st as at that time we seem to be chatting with each other almost everyday and the response I got was "I WANT!!!, She is my Idol!' I swore at that moment I was wondering if I was the one living in Mars as she seemed to know this brand way better than me...  she wanted to know if Mary Kay was the person who was to conduct the class and I sadly told her "eh die le " *opps. Nevertheless her excited rubbed off me and offered her place for a class.. since we were also due for a gathering and so we organized one that day.

The class was conducted by Belle while I stood by watching and assisting... the mummies were having great fun. That day I sold a little products which I decided that I could order another round.*yippee its what I call simple pleasures. During that time,  I chatted with some other people, recruited 2 friends (hoping it will rub off to them) and then I gradually died down. By June, I made a visit to office for some makeup class by this Malaysian Senior Sales Director Joanne and she "prescribed" some products and techniques to help me get my youthful glow. So my 3rd batch of orders was mainly for my usage ... I got complacent and did other stuffs, telling myself that selling ain't my cup of tea for my hopes of customers wanting to reorder seemed to have diminished. For me, to train my 2 beauty consultants were also real tough as my experience was really limited, at that point Belle was going for her directorship and so she really couldn't guide me along This was the point when I was real down..... cried heaps too, why? coz i sucked hahaha

In July, I received an email from a girl and she wanted to get for me a eye primer... as I am a techie freak I did go into some beauty forum to answer some questions, she was one of those that I answered, something about oily lids as she can't never put on eyeshadow. I met up with her at some cafe and she was so excited to be able to get the product as she did ask her friends in Malaysia about it and this friend swears by it. I think her friend was doing this in Malaysia.... While chatting with her she was looking at my skin and asking me how I achieve this and so I shared my story. suddenly she asked me how to get a discount if she will to buy? I was very apprehensive about asking her to join as I felt I was inexperienced to lead her into this. She however was real adamant about it.. so I called Belle to put this girl under her for her to lead but she refused. For this girl was attracted to me and could click.... and so at that point I  decided that I must be better in what I did.

From that day onwards, I made visits to the office, sat in many people's classes to learn how to better myself and brush up on my skills of the skin care class. I spoke to alot of people in office on how to do this business better and found out that by being on the "ladder of success", company will give you leads. So I up my game... During this point, it was toughest time! for I have absolutely no idea how to sell and sell well. I sat in front of the computer trying to find tips but failed for great sales people can't write or teach. Its a very personal game.... I started to ask top sales people, my husband and of course my father in law- the person who sold cigarettes when he was a poor man and is a self made millionaire. His words of wisdom were "What is rejection? it worthless Florinda... don't get the emotions get the better of you. Totally pointless to sit here trying to figure out a way. You gotta do it and learn."

I swear its sounds easier than done... I struggled so hard with myself, fighting the worst part of me and hiding the best part. I ended up crying alot.  I know if I fail at this point I will never succeed in life for this is my big boulder that is blocking my path to success. I struggle many times opting out and going to find a "real" job for its seems so much easier, but nothing pays more in life than sales job and one that allows up to climb up in ranks. I saw a bigger picture then...

Everyday is a struggle but like all jobs it will always be.... I flew 11 years and still had crappy passengers who will irk me and I took it personal.. but hellya that's life.  I work hard because I have a determination and have realized in my life, I must never make excuses. If I am lazy then admit it... I however have started making efforts to observe successful people in life and realized they never made excuses ... at all. 

I am not sure where this journey brings me, I just know I got myself the fantastic skin I always wanted. the business aspect of it is just a start. This is a waiting game like all businesses, the most patient one wins.

Progress in playgroup (Day 3)

Day 3: I decided not to send her as we decided that her drama-ness intensifies with me around. So Grandma Ng and Aunty Nita driven by Grandpa Ng and DD T brought her to school (while I slept in , as she has been real sticky last 2 days and it took alot of me for I absolutely cannot work ) She was dropped off at the gate, though there was lots of grumbling, one teacher managed to take her away from them..

I received more photos and she seemed to do real well :)

Grandma Ng and Aunty Nita picked her up as they felt that they promised her so I left the duty to them while I worked. They came back so happy and reported what happen in school today, telling me that she was telling them stories on their way back home kekeke. I spent 2 hours with her before I ran out for meetings. (drama-ness & sticky-ness included)

doing my work with Elly

concentrating during lesson

getting into activities

sitting down with friends for circle time

Initiated to go up for demonstration (omg my JG works!!)

Ta-da ... guess who??

yeah Im done!

mummy I'm eating noodles soup.. yummy!

Trying to show a funny face when teacher asked me ;)

Mummy I'm eating banana

Her sms: yes she's better settled today. had a few short cries before 10am, longer interval and shorter duration for each as compared to yesterday. More settled through mid of lesson as she's captivated by teacher's picture cards, songs and games. after that no more whining at all. Asked for mummy in between routine transition but is able to accept reasoning.

We're glad she is taking it well too ;) but keeping our fingers crossed first as we do come across children who display bigger reaction on 2nd wk!

1 good things is that Victoria is very vocal and her ability to express her needs and emotion through words is good, this does reduce her anxiety to some extent. She understands what has been explained or reasoned to her, hence able to accept better as well

* note all captions were provided by Mrs Sim... 

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Progress in playgroup (Day 2)

Day 2- I went to the school with her and found out that it was water play(not informed) ... no clothes :( = lots of grumbling. So we started the day on a bad note, called home to get her swim clothes, by the time it came, she was real grouchy. Mrs Sim came in later at 930 and managed to take her away from me....

I got home and got photos of her progress through Whatsapp and I thank the principal much

Her sms: You 're welcome. It's our pleasure to be able to share children's progress with parents. Transition period for new parents/children is a very special moment.

Today wasn't very good as she was more naggy and grumbled lots, there was at one point when her brows turn red and the teachers knew she was on the verge of crying and brought out "Elly"- the security toy. V controlled her tears well and I received a text to ask me to come early; hoping that she can end her school well. Very thoughtful of Mrs Sim :)

Her sms: Hi, as Victoria is more emotional today as compared to yesterday, you may want to come slightly earlier, say aroud 1130 to shorten her day? She is doing fine right now in class, just that the frequency of her asking for mummy is higher than yesterday, hence would suggest to end her day before the patience runs out. 

water play

she asked for sandwich, had 4 small slices of butter sandwich

drinking water after having sandwiches

Her photos from her principal

As promised, Mrs Sim whatsapp me



Sitting down with her classmates


Lesson time


Doesn't want to sit down in the floor, all the younger kiddos sitting on chairs instead


Music, dance time


Transition from classroom to toilet for hand washing... Doing the train walk


Silent Reading time


See eating lunch!!!!!

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1st day of playgroup

7th February 2011 marks the day my princess starts school by herself!!

I gave her a prep talk about how she must listen to the teachers, no biting, no fighting, no crying and that we will be around in school to wait for her. surprise surprise Victoria DID NOT CRY!!!! we are soooo proud of her.....

DD T and I walked her to school at 9 am (which was 5 mins from Grand's Ng house)

Aunty Nita bought her a barney school bag.. which has 3 pull ups, her Elly toy and milk.

her cute little cubbie...

we got there in time for outdoor play... so all her classmates were wearing their shoes

Today is hula hoop day.. check out their cute faces!!!!

Everyone meet Donna!!! V's 1st friend in playgroup.... she came up to V and started playing with her... *sweetness.

At this point, I walked away while Mrs Sim (principal) took her to the sand pit to distract her... DD T stayed with her until the outdoor play was over. Walked behind her when Mrs Sim was holding V's hands to go into the school, he too quietly walked away. We both sat outside the school for a good 20 minutes and heard crying ... my heart wrenched, DD T was very sure it wasn't V as she would have been screaming. Mrs Sim came shortly after and commented that our V is a nagger muhahhahah!! for she was asking and asking and asking "where is daddy? where is mummy....." we told her to say we went to work. She convinced us to go home and return at 1130 to pick her up.. so we went back to do the most mundane thing : Wash car.

At 1130 we walked back and went upstairs to check on her ..... guess wat??

we saw her eating!!!! lunch!!! CHINESE food!!! Rice with soup, tofu and egg tofu.. its a miracle!

she even clean up after finishing her food... oh yes she is wearing her JG shirt coz she chose her shirt for school and school to her is JG.

Mrs Sim took a lot of photos for me in her iphone and I have requested that she whatsapp me, it was her behavior while we were away. We walked home and she was so chatty telling me what happened, telling me she danced, read book, colour, eat rice.... She is very excited about day 2 of school, oh well I hope it goes well.

We are so proud of her.......