No its not me!!!!

Baby, this is you... 

nope its not!! 

Do you have a child that refuses to admit that they were once a baby? I have one....

Although we have her photos around the house, she just insists that its a baby not her. When u asks her where she came from, she says she appear from the floor. oh man... then the drama when we show her her infant photos... loads of tears coz they DO NOT look like her.

Then we actually all agree to it... she looks so different. Can't really blame her, can we?

1808

I got into my 1st accident....

Its the day after as I was really exhausted after the mayhem and slept early. I woke up at 630 am, hungry. Got myself a hot bowl of bird's nest for breakfast and blogged. I had already wrote a long post but it went missing :( whats new right?

Yesterday was such drama.. small one. The driver didn't stop his car at the stopline and rammed into me, the car that was driving normally on the road. I actually could see it coming towards me and accelerated, thank goodness I did that coz if not it would have been at my door. I came out to scold the driver of the peugeot but he was struggling with his door, he couldn't open and his bumper was loose. The benz got away with a scratch and the rims of the rear right were scratched scratched :( (did I mention the car just arrived? yea I am pretty screwed)   We did the necessary things and I drove off...

Arrived at my event and did the setup, made a call to Trev and he insisted that I go to the hospital for I was feeling discomfort as BB was moving too much. Guess it was due to the impact from the seatbelt.... I went back to event, delegated the duties, apologized to the guests and consultants and cabbed to KKH. Made a call to Dr Han- Thank goodness I have his direct no and was given instructions on what to do. It was really really assuring.... 

After the hoolubuloo at the delievry suite - I was even placed in the same room as the one I went to get my diahorrea checked before I had V. So u can imgaine the thoughts that I had that time :( I was so not ready to have the baby.... kept myself busy that time by FB-ing and sms-ing to erase all negative thoughts. Dr came to check and there was no dilation and contractions *thank god. I left the and cabbed back to my event.

I came home really exhausted and waited for V to come back from dinner. At that moment she came back with my MIL and 2 helpers, I said a little prayer to thank god for the help he is rendering to us. I felt so assured that my gal is so protected by the people she loves and that the parents are able to go and get things done, including the mini drama I had and still carry on like nothing happened.

The car has be sorted I think, gave all the info to the agent in charge of it. Will leave it to the guys to deal it it when they come back from the biz trip. For me, my role is to ensure that baby will be safe till full term and think driving is not a good idea for now. Too much of a scare and its not worth it.. will be cabbing for the next month. Will leave the 2 cars driveless for now..

Well it was a great reminder that I haven't got things ready for the BB, and that with Trev away for 2 weeks , it can be pretty handicapped when I am not ready. Coz the house has to be ready for the arrival.. I alwsys thought that Trev will be here when the BB comes and he can run the household, but God has his plans and reminds in life to teach u little things, isnt it.

I said a BIG THANK YOU To my guradian angel last night and V was like "what u say mummy?" I told her to thank her angel and she was "oh not yet, I will say later" but I insisted and she too shouted "Thank You!"

 Its things like that that you realized they are always around....  have you thanked yours yet?

my little chef

V has been watching alot of cooking shows on youtube, she has been requesting us to buy her this mixer and that baking thing. In this house, nobody bakes.... its a house of food- as in the talent is cooking not baking. The bakers are in other household and we are not short of them in this family. 

Nobody craves much for sweets here, if we do, its just a phone call away and it arrives within the next few days. We have awesome bakers in the family... 

So this child likes baking... I reckon its easier than frying right? So its off to buy Betty Crocker hahahah. I do not wish to weigh flour, sugar etc. I mean I can bake, but I don't LOVE it to have all the equipments here. Those were the days when I cook and bake, yes this pair of hands can cook. 

I didn't bother getting her a mixer, just a spoon to mix it ... but hey she is quite a talent. then again how tough is it right?

betty crocker to the rescue

just this easy.... mix mix mix

seriously easy 

happy camper

like all bakers, they don't eat much of their own food! 

training her for beansprout plucking

was a pizza day.. 

$45 worth and we made 12 pizzas!!!

Besides the baking, there are days when I will do cooking with her, jelly making, pizza making.. things that gets her entertained and gets praises for! She enjoys eating her own food, well there are days when its a success and some days just mediocre. We will be moving to cooking soup and blending smoothies soon. 

34 weeks

Visited the gynae today...

We decided on donating the cord blood and had a grueling interview (questionnaire) to fill up. Like omg the questions!! Only if the husband was here... It will be loads easier! Anyway,donating the cord blood is a great idea for the society as many ppl will get a chance of life with this opppotunity :) . If we do need the blood in future, there will be a nominal fee to pay (if it's still available), sibling pays $250 & if we need to take others from the cord bank, it costs $26,000. It feels great to have come to this decision, we kept V's cord blood and found that it was pretty redundant as its a better chance for the society to make use of it. God will have his plans....

Baby development : bb is crazily heavy at 2.8kg ! Yep I have another 6 weeks which means by is going to be huge... How fun for the delivery :( . Dr expected bb to be even heavier than V, who was 3.42kg at birth (already a toughie to get her out) lets see if this one will hit 4kg. It's really amazing if you see me and tat my tummy is tiny but inside is a heavyweight. No wonder l weigh heavier this round! I have not change my dressing expect for some tight fitting dresses the I bought at L size, but I don't wear any maternity dresses or rather didn't buy any. Yea body is pretty much the same ... That day I did makeup training class and after the class, the ladies was asking me to go clubbing with them! I was like "hello I'm expecting" ! Trust me it was only then the looked carefully at me and was shocked! Lol .. They thought I was just bloated... Bleah....

The discomfort has increased, with the irritating heartburn nightly... The stomach is getting really heavy and is sometimes almost impossible to get up once I lie down :(

Today I paid for my stay in kkh and it's estimated low of  $4.7k, high of $5.6k. Like how did hospitals get so expensive ;(.... Medisave covers $2k+ and I signed with my credit card for $2649!! Yikes... It's an increase of $800 since our last birth at 2009... And they so called renovated the rooms hahaha... If you do the sums, Dr consultations are on the average $100 with the test at 3months -$300 +, detail scan $400 + ...  Like today there was swap test for strep b $150+, increased visitation, vitamins, pills .. Believe it has reached $2k.  

Calculated of using cash is $2k & $2.6k = $4.6 k (minimum) let's just round up to $5k per child without calculating medisave. Hmm.

Potty training

Princess has been a darling most of the time, with the exception when she doesn't nap - the crankiness is to die for!! We have successfully potty trained her, yea there are accidents but till date like 3-4 times; always under the father's care. *sigh

She started to be off diapers for school for about the whole of this year already, started when teachers commented on the interest in using the toilet when her friends are doing so. Then we went potty shopping and she got herself a nice yellow potty with cover and all. Started her daily on potty at home, then came that rash she caught outside (which means she is still on diapers outside till date). Night potty training started about 3-4 months ago and has been successful!  I did it the cold turkey way, no pull up even. Prep talks every night and eventually she got it right. Pees before she drinks milk, pees after if she is still awake.

Every human/child alike sleeps in 90 mins block and so I will always time her 1st cycle. If she sleeps at 9pm, we will pick her up to do a pee at 1130am. Then the next pee by experience is 3 cycles later at 5-6pm. If its a week end and we will wan to sleep in late, we will do a pee at 2 am before we sleep and so it will last till 8-9am.

Normally V sleeps at 10-ish, so I will do the 1st pee break at 1or 2 am before I sleep and Trev will do a 6am. He has tried to be lazy and skips either one but V always is quicker than him. Then he gets a scolding from me, for being lazy. Yea there are days I don't have pee duties for baby carrying drives me tired. But 80% of the time I am in...

Next round is to go diaper less outside, but we are holding it back till she can hold it real well... sleep training is the milestone I was aiming for and we are 80% there. Just gotta wait till she is older when she can auto wakeup and do it herself or hold it in for min 10 hours. I know that will be about when she is 4/5 years old.

Me at 32 weeks

Im currently at 33 weeks, this was taken last week.

I am getting weaker by the week and this week has been heartburn + fatigue.

It's the same problems that haunted me during my 3rd month and I guess this is reversal time. Baby is now 2.2 kg- yea, small compact tummy but heavy :( . It gets difficult to turn in bed hahahaha, and getting out of bed! Coz the minute I am comfortable lying down, suddenly the bones gets stiff and muscles gets tight. Thank god that my gyane allowed me to use Salonpas plasters for my hip bones. I had to reconfirm with him for google was against the use of it.. his words "Google always say no to everything"

Weight has been piling on quickly this round for I am on junk food most of the time, how I wish this child eats more. Sigh, I survive on chips and chocolate for baby likes small quantity. Which means I grow fatter this way right? coz its rubbish food, so am trying for more salad and veggies now.

me at 30 weeks

with Victoria I had more photos of my tummy and etc.. though I better document this one before the stomach flattens!!! Here is me at 30 weeks, seriously think I look real awesome. This self praise I am giving myself for hey I am carrying a human being and yet I look like I am able to go and get hooked hahahahah!!

helpers ...

there was a "big" drama last week regarding the help that we have at home...

Yea we took another help, she came when I was in Dallas... although me n trev was her "boss", we never much care for a employee and employer relationship. It was somewhere 2 months ago, I convinced my father in law that we need an additional help. Yes, he is that anal about another one more woman in the house. But you see he doesn't see the workload that is necessary to maintain a household, he comes back when all work is done. Our helper has been with us for 13 whopping years! So you can imagine the clockwork this household goes through everyday, and her ailing body that has been punished by the stairs in this house. She came to me one day, telling me of her hope of going home as she misses her father and her ailment of her aching knee. I listened to her story and made a call to the husband, fixed an appointment with my father in law that very day.

I drove down to the office, sat down and spoke to him about the need of having that 2nd help. That empathy must be given to a employee of 13 years and her wish of going home. It was a simple 10 min convo and I left his table... his decision was to send her back immediately and not even wanting the 6 month unpaid leave she requested. I insist on maximizing her permit and giving her the 6 months unpaid leave, reminding him that help of such is a rarity.  Went into the warehouse and spoke to Trev and state my case. In the end it was their turn to have a discussion.

I came back and waited for a decision, family called for a meeting (without the mother in law), spoke and came to conclusion. Her desire to go home and rest at least 6 months there, we requested her to stay until as long as her permit allows, train the 2nd help before she leaves. I was very firm on this as I am due in september and do not wish for major cock up when I go out for my appointments. So all was agreed, info passed on to the MIL and she shot to the sky about such preposterous decision of 6 months unpaid leave, insisted on 3 months. Me - cannot be bothered with a change of decision,  FIL - whatever, Trev- just to keep the Mum shut.

The hunt of the helper went on, without my help. 1st- I am a noob when it come to this. Trev went through 4-5 helpers before he was able to get this one that came - a transfer. During that time, man, he was so afraid of updating me on the situation to this for me to take this long is incompetent.

So she came finally.... then one day she told my MIL that she wanted a transfer!!! bitch. I checked with Nita on what happened and realized she was reprimanded that morning by her coz the work was not up to par. So it came a seniority and juniority thing - and I though it only happen in SQ *rolls eyes. Made a call to the husband and we came to a decision quickly. We were keen to send her back, but the agency called back to explain on the situation. The new one -Jean is just purely stress on the workload that is to come when Nita leaves. She didn't complain about us ill treating her but how we dote her like a daughter etc. Which ever it is, we requested for a new helper that will arrive in 6 weeks.

The whole family was pissed with the saga, spoke about it but it boils down to our decision for she is ours. In the end, I decided to call for a meeting the next day with the 2 help.... got them to explain to me what exactly happened and behave like adults women; not young girls with PMS. Made my stand about them having a roster for this month to ensure work is evenly distributed... Trev gave his lecture and I was very simple; I insisted on a system. If this system doesn't work, its bye bye time for then its laziness. For I think if they can use hp, watch tv, chill out and sleep early in this household and still complain=purely attitude problem.

We are watching her....

Dream

I had a dream- Those pregnancy hormones caused ones.

I was in the shower this morning and told trev of it
"hey I dreamed u were screwing around"
"wat around"
"screwing"
"with ur friends?"
"ya I think so... "
"so...."
"in my dream I demanded $10,000 in alimony"
"that's all?!!"
"ya, but in the end I decided to go out, spend ur money, have many boyfriends and screwed aroun too" 
"okie that sounds more like what you will do" and walks out of the toilet

So much for hormonal dreams that tells the truth...

How i'm getting along

I have been having this nagging pain on my right hip, it terrible as I can't sit for long and it hurts. Which explains my lack of blogging, I'm infront of the laptop of 30 mins max.The pain is around the hip bone at the bum area, u know that 2 bones that curves in? yea there... its aching so much. I have trouble getting out of bed especially if I just lie down, need about an hour of stretch before it doesn't hurt as much. My massage lady is not keen on doing my massage for me, she has her logic and I respect it. so its up to me to fix my bad habit.

Been reminding myself not to sleep on my right for too long, but thats the only position I fall deep sleep in. So... man, not a winning formula. I have been clocking in sleep daily, maximising 12 hours daily, a pig like this. Today I woke up at 1230pm, yikes I know... like a swine. But its another month before insomnia kicks in and there is nothing I can do. Daddy is on a trip and 2-4 more before I pop, so night duties is still a chore. What night duty u may ask? Well, its making sure V doesn't roll away (terrible sleeper) or that her top is rolled up and exposing her stomach or that the blanket is kicked away, freezing her tiny toes cold.

Potty training has been real successful and she has been off sleep diapers for 1.5 months, I will stay awake till 130-2am to do her last pee and she sleeps to 8am for her next (daddy's duty). We cannot remove that 130am pee as its her last milk of the night collection. So we will tweak it eventually when she is older. Will do a post on how we did it...

Yea, so life has been relaxing. I do 3 appointments a week now and sleeping or lying down most of the other. Its time to slow down and plan for the future. There are loads of plans in the pipeline for the family and its all about the right timing to execute. Thats y my husband is frightened when I'm too free, coz my brain works 3 x more, then its hard for him to keep up. But I have learnt to give him time...

wats up?

So we are about ready for the arrival.. so i think

I started nesting when I was about 5 months, ya its crazy. I cleared the kitchen, created space..  actually not me. I instructed it....  it was a insane week, Trev had to pull out the old baby stuffs from the warehouse, cleared stuffs. My reason was that I won't want to do anything when I'm in my last trimester and that baby stuffs are way cheaper in States. I needed to know what is needed.

I bought only newborn stuffs most as I have given them away, if not,  most have milk stain and I threw them out. Still in need of booties and mittens coz I didn't keep any for it was so unhygienic. Hahahah.. nothing special this time round, like most 2nd time parents, most things that were bought for the 1st were a waste of money. So this round, buy only when is necessary... We even had a conversation on milk bottles, going the brands that we should use. Trev answer was "its really not for us to chose, it the baby's choice" now that is what we call an experience daddy. It was the same for the pacifier talk, on whether we should give one to the baby, "My dear, you forgot how we stuffed it into V's mouth and she keeps spitting it out?" Think we went through 3-4 different brands and finally realized she doesn't like IT. So this time round, he will go and get the stuffs only when requested, no point stocking things up.

V has been waiting IMPATIENTLY on the arrival.... she has given up asking "WHY SO LONG MUMMY?" it was really cute the 1st time she asked... now she just comes up and hug the stomach, kisses it. On days she will talk to the baby on her daily updates but most of the time she will sing. This round,  I didn't let baby listen to much music and her prenatal education is listening to daddy and me read stories to V every night. Blessed definitely...  baby does her waves during that time, basically approving of it loads.

Enjoy the video of V singing ...



Its soon i guess... my back just started to hurt on my right. So the weight has kicked in ....  u know its about time when visits to the gynae has become tighter.

@ 7 months

So we are sort of sure of baby's name... It's going to be a beautiful one. :) The baby is now at 1.2 kg, so that's what my gynae says. No machine checking of weight etc, just his pure hands.. (as usual). V was 3.42kg when born and this baby is going to be on the same track ... So my last 1.5 months is going to be pretty tough carrying this weight. We have put in 6kg till date, and everyone around has commented that I lost weight.. It's pretty odd for a pregnant woman.. Can't really explain, but I do feel lighter, ass got smaller. Stomach just grows... Blessing I guess. Those who don't know me gets alarmed when I stand up to see that I'm pregnant, those who knows I am is commenting how tiny my stomach is. Lol Me n daddy was looking through my old pregnant photos, me with many questions on how I look... He - everything is same same same. Men *rolls eyes I can't sleep yet, just had a bowl of instant Maggie curry noodle... Its back to 1st trimester of wanting hot soup. Tomorrow I will see if I can get double boiled soup somewhere.. Ya the trick of staying slim this pregnancy... Baby has teochew palette. Nice, light, hot.... I think it's absurd if I tell u that I had McDonalds' only once this pregnancy. Ya no junk.. Not like those days I was carrying V. Lunch is usually baked/grilled salmon & cod if there are marketing done that morning. Need to get a photo for recording purpose ... Or rather more excited documenting this!

personal time

This week has been crazy...

I was in a terrible mood, the weather didn't help me much. In this pregnancy, it happened somewhere abouts the 3rd month at about March. I felt that surge of hormones being downloaded and it was pure irritable. Trev was in Germany and I though it was because I missed him.. called and there were tears and all. He came back and immediately wanted to bring me to go shopping, asked me if I needed a new handbag or something.... I actually rejected him. Ya to a new expensive something I didn't have to ask for.. hahha

So this round, it happened again. I was at Dr Han's yesterday.... as usual he asked his questions and I didn't have anything to ask. But I did however told him "I'm not sure if its the weather that is driving me insane, but I cannot tolerate incompetencies!" He and his nurse laughed, "That is pregnancy hormones, you are normal" But with Victoria I was not that irritated... I think.... *ponders.

Anyway It was affirmed that its just raging hormones, I am a person very sure of myself. Basically hardly a person who sways away from my values, or thoughts and mostly in control of my emotions. Most people can fuck me in the face, but I just will not get affected.. *sometimes. Ya I am strong like that... but I do cry. Thats my weakness.. and its also my strength. That's the way I release tension. .  I love crying movies, for they make me cry for no reason except for theirs.

I knew that I was at my breaking point a few days ago when I shouted at my Bam Bam (my dog). She had crystals in her pee and had treatment, made me real tired etc.. will not go into detail. But the gist of it was I shouted and had that urge to cry. I knew that was it..... like I mention, I may shout about but never in anger. V, Bam Bam and Trev do not get me screaming at them like a headless chicken, and I don't hit them (the child and the dog)  This round I was pissed. I knew at once this was it... I came back mediated, prayed... digged to the bottom. It hit me that I needed my personal space, I was frustrated coz I had piled up work that I wasn't able to complete. Ever since I returned, I had at each time in the house 2 helpers, my mil and her twin sister, 1 daughter and 2 crazy noisy dogs.

I wrote my husband an email... stating my case of my getaway this weekend. He accepted it, booked me a hotel of my choice. Yes he is supportive like this ... usually I will just book a ticket and fly away.. but I don't think i need to want to travel. Period

the deluxe room

my free mini bar snacks... topped up daily *yummy

my work space is just next to this... 

the cosy bed that I can crash

the view... just what i needed.. green and serene

It is just amazing... I just got in about 1.30 hours ago and have already got into my work mode. Yes I'm nazi like this... once I work, I forget to stop. But at least its productive to use 2 full days to get 1 month's work done and that once I am back home, I can play barbie, read, feed, bake with V without feeling guilty that my personal work is not completed. This is the result of having too many help, renting out my place to have no personal space. I usually can work at 11pm when the whole world has retired and I have peace... but at the last trimester, working at 11pm is no longer a luxury for lying in bed is more appealing.

I wonder at this point when is my next personal time out...

rest and rested

It another week of trying to jump start my engine...

I was supposed to be back full force but when the precious is at home.. I cannot do much. It odd, its happens every time!!! I will go out unless really necessary like my fixed appointments but really cannot do much in terms of my personal work. Even though personal work is done at home, I cannot get it going when she is hanging.. I need peace and quiet when it comes to my personal work. Yes I  long for the day I have my own office and that I can go into my space to get things done. But that has to be next year.... plans ;)

So I need to go to Taka to get my baby stuffs.. but hell I cannot get moving out of the house. *crap. I have been just sitting on the dinning table for the last 3 hours, eating and cooking and eating and online. the Princess has been on her ipad the whole time watching her chinese and spanish shows. I got bored and decided to do some blog hopping and stumbled on my gf's sad blog post and choked. I learnt a lesson not to eat and read sad stories.. now i feel sad :(

Sent a text to the husband and asked if he was keen on a date hahaha... movie night for a pregnant women. Dinner is out as the home has his favourite nasi lemak all ready for his arrival. So decided to bring V for a movie night too, (since the adult movies are crappy, spider man and vampire shows? seriously) ...  she has been going out nightly with daddy and family for the last 3 nights. Me ..  I was doing my own things. I not much care for shopping after my trip for I shopped so much its not funny ;P

Needs to get moving.... move it move it!!!! arghhhhhhhhhh

Viral Fever

I came back from my trip and saw that V's lips were pretty red... these are signs of my child getting heaty and I was on a alert, brought her to the pool to cool down. But I guess the inevitable happened.... it was expected as the weather has been atrocious and its about time she gets the fever. On sunday during church, she started some drama and it was in my bones that she was unwell. She doesn't get into the diva mode nowadays unless in pain or discomfort, went back to my mum's, refused dinner, by the time she was in the car she claimed she has a headache.

By the next morning, she was off school and we kept her at home. By nap time it shot up to 38.8 and drove her to the PD's immediately as there was suspected HFMD in school. Well lucky for her  (or not) it was a viral fever and had medication; was warned against going to school UNTIL hfmd got cleared clean. Coz any child with viral fever gets it bad if  they catch the hfmd.... she did at massive puke in the car on Aunty Nita and by night after one does of the magic viral medication. She miraculously recovered! I have no idea if it was the puke or the meds... but there was a youtube marathon and she insisted on baking today. I had to go and get the stuffs... wanted to upload her photos but have no idea how to do on my s3. *crap

Thought today I will share with you how we keep V real healthy as the counts of her catching something is real minimal (we are pretty impressed with her record) and its important that I should share with all of you what we do.

1.She has Everon C every morning when she wakes up, before she is whisked off to school -seriously not sure if it works but think it fights pretty well.
2. When she gets back from school/walks/outings, she has to wash her hands and feet before she steps into the house, no compromise at all.
3. She gets probiotics in her milk when she is off any medication for at least 2-3 month (afternoon milk)
4. She eats fruits daily without fail- favourites being berries. Strawberries. raspeberries. blueberries, blackberries. grapes. chinese pear. apples.
5. The minute she doesn't does her poo, or her lips get red... we boil barley to be used as the water of her milk- to give her fibre. Helps to cool down her body due to heat as the weather can get crazy.
6. No chocolate, no milo or anything heaty especially in crazy weather like now.


If you realize that we never allow V to go into any heaty mode, its crazy that I have become so anal about it. But in this climate, they go into a heaty mode very fast. It attracts any form of viruses quickly... coz the body is warm and viruses multiple quickly?  I really don't know how to explain... but I look back at my childhood and this works. Another thing I am pretty strict about is sweets... I realize most kids that are sugar magnet usually fall sick fast, I guess bacteria multiples fast too in such situation.  Well, I'm not that anal that I ban them, but if she wants sweets, she need to brush that teeth... she wants that chocolate, im okie with a small piece. But milo is a nono... coz milo makes me heaty fast, I believe on days if V is heaty it makes it even worse fast. Some thing like why they allow milo during confinement? lol ...

Anyway these are the things we do daily to prevent her form common colds and flus which is working fine. We can't avoid big monsters diseases but the least we can do is help to monitor....